Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Learning to Forgive

I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men. [D&C 64:9–10]

I would be lying if I said that anger was not a real part of the grieving process.  Sometimes I am angry at individuals...those closest to me…sometimes myself…sometimes people I don’t even really know.  Sometimes I feel abandoned, misled, or confused.  It’s difficult not to question an emulated lifestyle .  Some days, I feel so alone.  

I choose to forgive.

“It’s all part of the process,” people say.  “It’s totally normal,” which I suppose means I’m validated in my feelings...but how would they know?  No two trials are ever the same.  It’s easy to offer comfort when you’re secretly grateful it’s not you.  

I choose to forgive.

Insensitive remarks can cause so much hurt to the broken-hearted.  I wonder if that’s why some people choose to remain silent in the face of another’s adversity.  “How can they not say something about this?” I ask.  I know we’re all at different points in our progression, and most of us are fighting our own demons anyway.   

I choose to forgive.  

How can I rise above an outcome that cannot be changed?  How can I ever feel the peace I once knew?  I have never known such pain, and I know there will be many days ahead when my heart aches and my tears flow.  

Even then, I will choose to forgive.  

I know forgiveness is not a one-time choice.  I have to choose it every day, over and over again.  Often many times in one day - when I see the grief felt by my mom, my brothers, and their wives, when my own children ask questions that cannot be answered right now, when I look at pictures of happier times or see his pencil markings in all of my music books.

I choose to forgive.

Why?  Because I trust in Him, for “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13), and come what may, there is true joy in the promises of eternity.  

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Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Soccer Daddy

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There’s something to be said about this man who works long hours providing for our family, yet still finds time to coach the cutest soccer team in town. :)  I’ve always known Jared was a good dad, but it’s pretty amazing to see him make a difference in the lives of other kids, too.  

His tech skills come in handy, too!  He has an app on his phone that keeps track of each player and their positions…while recording individual on-the-field playing time.  So funny.  I tease him a little, but he takes it seriously, and the girls love it!   

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GO…"Sparklers!"

Friday, October 3, 2014

Grateful in All Things

Today I am feeling grateful for so many things in my life.  

This morning it was my daughters and the love they have for each other.  Every October, spirit week ends with the annual Jog-a-Thon.  Students receive donations based on the number of laps they can run in one hour.  Carlie’s goal was to run 15 laps.  AnnMarie’s goal was to make sure Carlie achieved her goal. :)  It was amazing to see AM set a pace that pushed C to the end.  These two are runners!!  They both accomplished their goals, and it was inspiring to myself (and others) to see AM’s dedication to her little sis.  

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Later today my gratitude came from this picture of my big brother and his family.  Man, I’m grateful for the way they make me laugh.  The 80s stack:    

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I found myself touching my washer and dryer for a few seconds today.  My heart overflowed with gratitude over the simple fact that it was dependable…working…and washing/drying so many clothes all at once.  I had a quick flashback to my days in Argentina when line drying was all I had.  I have so much to be grateful for right now in my life.  

Happy Conference Weekend!!  

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Happiness Is...

"Happiness is not something ready made, it comes from your own actions.”     - Dalai Lama XIV

Happiness is choosing to smile on days when it’s hard to forget the pain.  

My family went to Island Park the day after my dad’s funeral in July.  Some close family friends of ours insisted that we take the keys to their cabin for a few days.     

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Nate and Emmy have only been newlyweds for about five months now.  They are so fun to be around.  I love them. :)

Happiness is walking hand in hand.

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Happiness is 'not crying because it’s over, but smiling because it happened.’  - Dr. Suess

Their beautiful vintage wedding reception happened back in April...  

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I personally think happiness is little girls with cute hairdos...

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and kisses that last a little too long. :)

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Happiness is a visit from your mom…seeing how beautiful and strong she is for all of us.

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Happiness is taking your son to the dentist for the very first time... 

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and styling your girls’ hair like cupcakes for crazy hair day at school.   

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There is good all around us.  We can’t be truly happy unless we’ve experienced the unhappy at times.  I hope that I can always remember to choose happiness.  Life can be ugly and hard, but I know that when we rely on our Savior every hour, every moment…peace and happiness do come.

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

A weekend with the Wolfleys

My dad was a faithful reader of my blog, and with each post I write, I’ll yearn for his commentary.  He’d usually text me a comment or two the day after one of my posts just to tell me that he saw it...and that he loved it.  “Man, I sure enjoy your blog - the kids are growing up fast - unreal!” he’d always say.

As I move forward without my dad’s reassurance, it’s the little things that I’ll continue to miss and treasure.  My priorities have realigned instantaneously simply because of the way he lived his life.  As I continue to blog, I hope my kids know just how much I value their journey, as my dad did mine.    

We spent the 4th of July with Jared’s family at the Wolfley homestead.  As all the grandkids get a little older each year, it’s neat to see their relationships as cousins turn into friendships.  They love spending time together, and since they don’t have the opportunity to see each other very often, they don’t waste a minute when they’re together.  

I hope a few of these cheerful pictures bring some sunshine to your day.  

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I don’t know about those motorcycles, but I’ll be all over that yellow tube next year. ;)